I was worried at the start of this thread as most people seemed to be posting no they didn't want this. I have struggled for ages with this as I suddenly found I wanted this, but I really didn't want to. I think what people have said about how painful it is when someone shows affection and caring for you for the first time the grieving for what we've missed is hard. I talk to t a lot about this attachment and her mother figure role for me and she explained it much like Chopin. The reason I am fighting this so hard is that I too am terrified it will end in tears. But I would be lying to myself if I didn't admit part of me longs for a better mother figure and here is a female offering me some of the care I never had. I am working really hard to make more relationships in real life, but with no partner it is difficult.
I don't think we can always help this desire. It is just that, a desire