Yes I think you're right and i agree it is easy to get hurt along the way. My t comments she wishes I would trust her more. She has encouraged emails and calls when things are bad, but I rarely let myself, setting myself a boundary to try and keep me safer. Reading on here has made me very wary especially as no one has responded to your post with a positive story. I do however have a friend who is a t who went through a huge attachment and emerged through it in one piece with her t. She stills sees her but says she no longer has these kinds of desires, that they too will pass. I just hope they pass before I and others like me get hurt