Healthy children don't grow up with parents as "blank slates". I think that human interaction, the therapeutical relationship, is what heals the patient. It sounds to me like you know what you need, someone who you don't have to put words into her mouth for her to say something human. I think it would behoove you to interview a different therapist (s) just to see. It might make all the difference in the world. ((((((hugS)))))))))