((adam)),

I think it is good that you shared with your wife, a relationship is better when a couple is open with each other, helps them understand each other better.

My concern is that you make sure that you don't make her feel "responsible" for your happiness or to "fix" you. I see you have told her that "she" is the reason for you getting up every morning, but that can also be pressure for her. I think that you need to let her know that you are not expecting her to "fix" you and that you do know that is "your job and not hers". I think a better thing that you can say to her is that because you "love" her so much you are more encouraged to "fix" these things that have troubled you.

I am thinking about her age, she is still young and doesn't have the "life skills" yet to know what to do about this new knowledge she has of you. So that is why I am encouraging you to make sure she knows you are not expecting her to "know" the answers/solutions to your challenges.

Also, you are both still pretty young so make sure you "plan things to do together" that are learning, fun things. I think I suggested that to you before, I think that is important for young couples, get involved with life and learning "together fun things" because you are both still young and really growing into yourselves still, which is still working on your "identities" more. Efforts to grow and keep learning will help that along and bring on stronger bonds.

Also, don't be too quick to put the Kabosh on having a family someday either. That is something you both can address in a few years again. I think that it is wiser for you both to grow together more. And you need to do some healing now, you can do it. I am very sorry that you had so much parental confusion and disappointment growing up, but that is not all of you remember, you have to work on yourself, learn to "love yourself" inspite of whatever was not there for you. It is "time" to walk away from the hurt and "love self and build "your life" now adam. You have presented yourself here as a good and caring person, while a little lost, the good and kindness is there in you, turn that "inward as well" know that you do deserve it.

(((Hugs)))