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Originally Posted by just_some_girl
I see what you did there.. 
I don't think writing is 'less clever'.. but you know, sometimes when there are problems in therapy - especially when about the therapist or something they did/said (in my experience) - the T can become a little defensive. Things can get a little tense... To me this seemed like a great way of raising the issue - gently, and with humour - and maybe raising a smile at the same time, whereas plain writing telling the same story could come over 'emotional' or 'attacking' if the T were so inclined to take it that way.
Or.. maybe it just appeals to the inner child in me. (She is mischievous tonight!  ) |
I'm a little late posting here but my reaction was like JS Girl's. I thought that the impasse was due to the lack of funny emoticons in the therapy office.
Anyway, I'm sorry it's hard sawe. It sounds like you already think there is some truth to what your t is saying.
I liked what Rainbow wrote- you could say "it hurt me when you said what you did. Maybe it's true but I'm not ready to hear it". I wouldn't have thought of that. On the other hand, I think I'm too open to letting t's talk me into negative things about myself sometimes. I agree with Rainbow that they shouldn't be saying it if the client isn't ready to hear it, which is maybe almost the same thing as if "it" is wrong. The client is ultimately the only one who can decide if it's right or wrong, so if they're saying it when the client is going to feel it's wrong, it might as well be wrong. And if "it" is going to make the client feel s/he doesn't have dignity, that can't be right/correct either. Hmm, I think I've just convinced myself that at least something about what
is saying to
has to be wrong. At least the way
is expressing it has to be wrong because
is leaving
feeling like
won't have any dignity. I don't know if all of that helps any though since
maybe still is going to try to have some difficult conversations to help
understand things better.