Hello nyule

Heres my take on your problem. First off be sure your in love with this person. I think you can love a person but not be "In love". Sometimes we can confuse love with pitty or many other things. For ex. my brother married someone that was his first love. They broke up for some time prier to the marrage and he seemed so happy. I think he got back with her because there was a comfort he was us to when he is with her but as far as being in love "NOPE".

As far as OCPD, Don't you worry to much about that hon. We all have are problems. OCPD is just like any other disorder. You can rate it on a scale from 1to 10. 1 being not so bad and 10 being the worst. Just like any other disorder, it can change from day to day, week to week, month to month and year to year.

If you love your partner, be supportive. Take it from me, things can get better. My husband met me at my worst. I was a train reck. But he saw something in me worth fighting for. We had real hard times and broke up many times. We still can't beleave we got through it all.Now were in a place that things couldn't get better. He's wonderful.

I have OCD and many other things. My OCD was real bad as a child. Things got better and when I grew up, it came and went. Everyone is differant. Some people never get much better and others do. Its just something that has to be taken seriously and is treatable. I'm doing great on my meds and am so glad my husband stood by me and never gave up hope.

If your in love and want to spend your life with this person, give all the support you can. But yes, do love your self and take care of both of you. Things can get better in time. The right support and understanding can go a long way. Read up on the illness and make sure your partner gets the right help.

Good luck
Jacqui :-))