I did not ask for advice. I actually thought the purpose of this forum was to find others who had similar situations with a daughter/son/family member who could understand and feel your pain from their own personal experience, could share some of their experiences and what they have done about/ learned from it, and offer some comfort just by knowing you are not alone. I did try to do a search for similar situations, but the only one I found was from 2009 and I believe that thread had been closed. I would never attempt to give anyone advice unless I had had a similar experience, knew someone who fit the description described, and could share what worked for me. Since it is apparent you have no personal experience with this, I don't see how you feel you are qualified to give advice. To give you the benefit of the doubt, I believe you meant well, but I felt like I'd been kicked in the teeth with your cold clinical reply. I hope you do better with your other thousands of posts, not take the role of therapist, and stick to those which you know something about. I will not post any more on this subject.