That strikes me also as being important. We are not entitled to have what we want from others. For me, with my history, I have a conflict with wanting things from others at all. I feel that if I want something from someone, and they are not comfortable giving it, then I have done something wrong. Growing up, there was someone who got what he wanted from me despite the fact that I was uncomfortable-- sometimes he used force, sometimes he used manipulation, sometimes he used threats against other people and creatures, etc. So the idea of being on the other side, of asking people for something and them being uncomfortable, makes me feel icky. So I often do not ask for what I want. I am not afraid of rejection, I am afraid of making other people feel how I once felt. I know logically that doesn't make me a perpetrator, but my emotional reasoning is a bit further behind.