"Do you think it's wrong if someone needs help talking..."

No. (Except when it's me. I can't apply any of my own advice to myself, it seems.) I don't think it's wrong. If I'd been able to talk about stuff instead of storing it up, I probably wouldn't need therapy.

I normally start by asking for a cup of coffee (T will make it if I ask). Sometimes I bring him things to read as I can't talk. A couple of times I've started talking and not been able to stop. And one time I stormed in and screamed my head off at him.

I think the only time he ever started by asking a question was the very first time. Now he just sort of looks at me expectantly - like critterlady said! - and waits for me to talk. Asking him to make coffee helps give me some time to ease in.