Why you selfish? Are you not allowed to talk about yourself, or give yourself some thought? I don't think you're being selfish at all. Oh, and yes, you are attractive! Am not saying that because am on here, I'm saying it because you are attractive, full stop.

You know, when I read the post above, I thought to myself 'that man is going to go far'. It takes a strong person to accept his faults, and be so honest. I really do think that if you start making steps towards building yourself some confidence, you'll feel a ton better. It IS hard, and it really does take some work, in the way that you have to catch yourself when thinking something negative about yourself, and trying to stop it. But I really do think you'll get there, I really do.

And one thing on being attractive btw, is there are many many things that make someone attractive, not just facial features or a body. A smile, a twinkle in the eye, confidence, a sense of fun and good humour... and this is just the tip of the iceberg.

You know, my partner had spent 12 years with a g/f before we met. He used to go on about how ugly he was - his ears are too big, he has no chin, his eyes are too small, how his feet were the ugliest around - how stupid he is. Honestly, when we first met at a gig (with a bunch of others) I was expecting a gargoyle!! I was completely blown away when I first saw him and I thought he was gorgeous! I still do. The hangups that he had just didn't have any bearing on the truth, and this is simply low confidence in himself. - All because someone (his ex) had told him for so long that all these things were faults. And now he's much more confident, and getting better all the time. He's also doing cognitive therapy so he can recognise his pattern of negative thoughts and try and stop them.

It is possible to turn things around - it takes some time, and being honest with yourself, but watching my other half slowly become happier and deal with things much better, I know you can do the same.

Hugs