Mr. outNabout, I truly feel for you. Last night I was looking for books/information about abuse, I was sexaully abused at age five to six. I stumbled across information on naricissism and, for the first time, my relationship with my wife makes sense. My wife has been my gf for thirty years now. I always thought,"She just needs someone to truly love her."
I promise, if she is as narcissistic as it sounds, you are much better off divorcing. Let her go terrorize someone else. Your heart needs healing, you will NEVER be good enough to satisfy the narcissist! It is an absolute immpossibility.