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Feb 27, 2013, 02:46 PM
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Member Since: May 2012
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Originally Posted by hungryghost 
Some links/quotes that I strongly relate to and that are relevant to this post/my journey:
http://www.therapist-training.com.au...ellogyoung.pdf
"Despite the reputation that patients who have BPD have for dramatic displays of “acting out” behavior and high levels of emotional intensity, most of the time, they are typically functioning in what is called the detached protector mode, in which the patient adopts a “style of emotional withdrawal, disconnection, isolation, and behavioral avoidance” (Young et al., 2003, p. 275).
In the detached protector mode, patients may feel numb or empty. They may adopt a cynical or aloof stance to avoid investing emotionally in people or activities. Behavioral examples include social withdrawal, excessive self-reliance, addictive self-soothing, fantasizing, compulsive distraction, and stimulation seeking (p. 275).
Another complication here is that although the detached protector mode has helped
patients survive, it interferes with psychotherapeutic progress and keeps the abandoned
and abused child blocked off from a therapeutic connection."
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I find myself doing this a lot in therapy. It's like my T is trying to reach in, and I won't let it happen. I also do this with people who try to get close...
Thanks for sharing.
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