when the therapist passes it off say yea but this is what I need from you on this topic ....

Just bringing it up without a plan of what you want to happen once you bring it up will only get passing off.

Its kind of like bringing something up and then shrugging the shoulders oh well Im fine with it at the moment so..

Without knowing what you need a therapist can't give what you need to you you.

Kind of like my having a nightmare if I just kept saying "I didnt sleep last night I had a nightmare. thats cut and dry all the therapist can say to that is ok and go on to something else.

But when I say I had a nightmare last night. I have it every night and the pattern of it is this and I want to use relaxation visualizations techniques to try and figure out what is going on with this nightmare. Now the therapist has room to work with me on it - what time do you go to bed, how long do you sleep, why do you think the pattern that day and night is the hardest, yes I can work with you using relaxation visualizations....

Saying "I cut the other day". all a therapist can say to that is ok thats why you are in therapy for and wait for your next move. Form that moment on the balls in your court as to if you want to continue the conversation and in what direction you want to take it and what you need and want about this problem..

So the next time he drops the ball in your lap run with it say ok and talk your heart out letting your therapist know where you stand on the topic, what you have tried, what you want to try and what things you want him to help you with.

You wouldn't go into mcdonalds and say "I want a shake" and expect them to know what exactly you need.. you have to tell them I want a chocolate shake.. You are the consumer.. and are purchasing a service..

the same with therapy you are the consumer and need to be clear on what you want and need otherwise you are not going to get what you want and need.