I am not looking for another person to tell me I need to get out of this situation and away from this person ... that is a generic response I have heard a million times that has yet to answer any questions that I have about my responses.

It sounds like you need to speak with a professional about your responses.

That said, I doubt you're going to be able to talk with anyone that won't tell you to put some safe distance in this relationship. If you're spending most of your time forced to react, there's not much time to study those reactions because you're always in defense mode? I wish you more than well.

Welcome to PC.

KD