I agree with Anika. It does seem to me by reading your letter that you are focusing an awful lot are trying to get her to see your side. Yes, your feelings are valid BUT so are hers. Maybe she feels the same way. It seems like you are both frustrated with trying to communicate your "feelings" to each other. I was recetly in a very similar situation. My ex was constatnly telling me "how" I should feel about certain things that happened in our realtionship. People react differently and I was entitled to feel however I felt. He could not understand that because he didn't think I should feel the way I did. He insisted it was MY problem because I couldn't get over/past things.....BUT it wasn't just MY problem. In a relationship it was OUR problem. Things he had done caused me to feel a certain way. The way I reacted caused him to feel a certain way. BOTH entitled to our feelings but a vicious cycle of not being able to agree or see eye to eye eventually ended it. I'm not trying to take sides but sometimes its just not meant to be and two people will never agree and see eye to eye. It can be that simple......and love does not always conquer all.

"I've come to you at least 3-4 times to try to work things out and move on and all that you do is continue to beat me over the head with what you believe I have done."

What exactly does the sentence above mean? What does she believe you have done?