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Originally Posted by emptyspace
Ever hear "walking on eggshells"... that is what it is like to be close to someone with BPD. Do one thing wrong and watch out. Goto the Psychotherapy board and read the BPD people who post about their therapists and you will see the behaviors. They tend to treat people like ****, unless they get help. BPD disorder patients tend to be very self-centered, want to be special, break boundaries, devalue people, etc.
Moods tend to be short-lasting. For example, boyfriend apologizes and brings back flowers, mood is better. Therapist calls the next day, apologizes for not returning the call and the Borderline's life is better.
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i never knew what it really was until i had a boyfriend with this. i never understood him and still dont. but this does sum him up even if it doesnt everyone else. he would get mad at me for no reason and never would tell me why. then call me text me back in the middle of the night or next morning and be so happy. afterwhile i was really scared of his moods. it wasnt about his general mood it was really about the relationship. although once he did say he would do what he did sometimes because he didnt want to lose me. we had prob broken up and got back on at least..hm..15 times? or around there. and so i said "if you dont want to lose me WHY do you say that stuff to me?" and just so you know he has said some of the most awful things to me - at times cursing and blaming me for how bad the relationship was. he would always say "i love you so much. im just so sorry im just scared. lets not ever fight again. lets renew this". ugh and i believed it every single time. partially cause i was young and naive.
im not BPD or bipolar. i have schizophrenia. but i loved him very much. that was his way of dealing with people. MY way was and still is isolating myself. near the end of so many break ups i would isolate myself from him 6-7 months at a time. i really did love him. he was my first love. dated him from 13 yrs til 17yrs of age. i went through hell with him. and while i recognize my faults now - the relationship did not do well mostly because of him. he knows this. he said sometimes he couldnt stand him. he would isolate too. not much - and usually to get back at me. and then come out from hiding a week later sending 6-7 texts at a time with a story about how much he loved me.
but when i would isolate hed stalk me around online because he HAD to know what i was up to and if i was talking about him. even making a name on a forum and talking to me.
it was def def crazy for me.
he did this with all his friends.
when i talked to him at college age he would tell me hed goto clubs and pick up people and do various inappropriate things/one night stands/drugs/etc. so much more stuff. and from reviewing all of the time i knew him everything seemed to revolved around him trying to find love somewhere for himself. relationships were a big thing to him and he would brag about diff people he dated and then say how over them he was a few days later.
he was also gay.
when i dated him he was bisexual. so. yea.