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esthersvirtue said:
i guess. i dont agree sorta. if my friend told me they were struggling.. i think my job is to mirror compassion and care. thats what i want from my T.

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here's one answer to this......how about telling this above scenario to your T? your T cannot just know this is what you want or possibly need. if mirrored compassion and care are what you seek you need to specifically express that to your T.

hurting someone's feelings isn't what most strive to do but it would seem healthier in the long run to have someone feeling their toes were stepped on instead of months of ineffective therapy due to the lack of communication from client to T.

you have an ability to share what is going on with you in ways that communicate quite well your issues at hand. often one is their own worst stumbling block when it comes to forward progression because of one's focus on the other person's feelings INSTEAD of one's OWN feelings.

hope you are able to find a solution that works for you and helps you.