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Originally Posted by depressedgirl
ok so my fiancee and I have been together for a year and 1/2 now and we're supposed to be getting married next april. We have a great relationship most of the time. He treats me good most of the time, except for when he's mad. When he's mad there is no calming him down for atleast an hour or two. So, when he's mad he doesn't think. He has never hit me, but he has pushed me and throwing me on a bed and pushed me into a wall so it's not really as bad as it could be right? It could be a lot worse, if fact i've been through a lot worse. The only thing he has ever done that has made me 100% terrified was one day a couple weeks ago. We got into a fight and he pushed me on the bed and pressed the thumbs of both of his hands into my neck right above my throat. He didn't choke me, but it did hurt for a couple days after. I'm just wondering if anyone agrees that it's not bad enough to really do anything about?
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The pushing and shoving is only the beginning. Doubt not, it will escalate. I have been into a relationship with an abuser, this is how it started. He eventually tried to kill me by choking me, on Christmas day, on my property, and refusing to leave until I called the police.
Please get out of that relationship as soon as you can!
I also recommend you to read ''Why does he do that - Inside the minds of angry and controlling men'' , by Lundy Bancroft, I bought and read it, it's one of the best out there on the topic of abusive men. It will shed light on every possible question you could have.
Please do no marry or have kids with an abuser. It will turn your life into a nightmare. Don't subject your future kids to this.