When my T finally touched me, it was not about affection or bonding. It was very much about helping me get grounded and not walk out of his office and continue shivering for hours after. The touch came long after the trust. If he had tried to touch me in the beginning (for perhaps the first year or more), my response would have been a fairly cold, don't ****ing touch me, kind of thing. My T says touch in therapy, for him, is a very individual thing that depends on the client and why they are asking.