I'm with a few others here. I really don't like the phrase 'winning your trust'. I think if there are therapists that have this mindset, then I don't want them anywhere near me.

My T has worked hard to gain my trust, to show me that she is deserving of my trust, and to teach me that trusting her has no negative side effects.

In turn, I have to learn how to trust myself enough to know that I can trust her.

I don't think it has anything to do with touch or soothing and self disclosure. It has to do with showing me or the client that you care about them and that they are there to support you and take you as you are. A lot of those are her words.

Trust being won sounds like deceit or manipulating to me. I wouldn't trust someone who was just trying to 'woo' me.