I'm still here.... thank you everyone for your support. I too do not like timelines to determine our fate. It's just something our counsellor asked me and I said I'd give it up to a year. I also said that it was a load of $&!# to put a hard target out there. I'm trying to look past everything that has happened and move forward. But as long as she keeps putting up walls I'm going to have to change my game plan. SHE just sees hurt in my eyes and can't find it in her heart to move past this. I know she's trying...its that she doesn't feel I deserve her love and her mine. We're both thinking of the kids and it hurts to bring them into this mess. They are so innocent and right now they see mommy and daddy in love. Slow and steady I guess and hope for the best..... D.