"I could never tell her that cuz I dont want to lose her or hurt her feelings".

Been there. In the end the relationship is likely to be redundant if you don't get past this fear. Not meaning to be harsh..... you do need to learn to speak up for YOUR needs... in a direct manner..... while not losing your compassion for others that some do lack. It's a tricky balance to attain, and one that I am also working on.

Good luck!!
Fuzzy