quote=kittycat97;2909809]I have read in many places that you can heal completely when you forgive your abuser. Is this true? Or can you use dissociation or time to forget everything?[/quote]

I am a newby, I don't think all the numbers etc are supposed to be in the post. Movin on.

Most of my abusers are dead. The only one left asked for forgiveness 20 years ago. I made the decision to forgive my abusers. It was an act of will, not a feeling. I couldn't do it until we dealt with big bunch of crapolla. I would just dissociate initially, but that kept everything intact. My therapist helped me to break memories into small, manageable thoughts and feelings.

I forgave them because I didn't want them living rent free in my head for the rest of my life. I certainly did not do it for them. This is what worked for me.

Sabra