As I went through the end of my marriage, I found that I had to concentrate on keeping me okay and if she came back, she came back. She, as you can tell, didn't come back. But I am better now. I am not saying your marriage will end as mine did, but I am saying that you cannot control her and keeping track of her infidelities and transgressions is torturing you. Should she stop? Yes. But you cannot make her. And if she doesn't stop or try to get individual help for stopping, then you'll have your answer.