Thanks for all the respobses they all mean a lot and are really helpful.

Carol, either way I think we're both in ways arguing the same thing but in different ways. Feel free to disagree but I think either way we're having to.disocciate ourselves emotionally to hide our emotions one way or another. Either way as ypu said yoirself, it is a learned behaviour.

I think humpur is another coping mechanism to hide emotions.

I grew up in an environment where most were angry and sad, and my abuser made me nothing but angry and sad. But I had to be the one to not show it.