I slept with a friend of mine one night when we were drinking. He kept kissing me the next day and we went out for breakfast. We started hanging out (no sex) and then one day, he ditched me. When I respectfully confronted him about this one night when he was walking me home. He started getting really panicky and stuttering. After he realized that his excuses weren't phasing me, he said that he likes hanging out with me but he just got out of a four year relationship and that she's emailing him and its rough. Also, he said that he has social anxiety and is introverted and doesn't like going out. I didn't see what any of this had to do with me, but I didn't judge him for it. He pretty much ignored me for a month and I gave him space. I gave up.

We've started hanging out again. He's kind and pays for me, but doesn't make a move. I'm wondering if this is a horrible idea. I don't want to get hurt, but there is no one else where I live. I want to have romance in my life like every other college kid, but I feel like the odds are against me. I don't want to question myself and feel ****** like I did when he ditched me. I don't know if it would even work if I ignored him because we see each other all of the time.

Also, I'm not sure if I should bring up the things he said when we walked home or if I should ask if he sees more-than-a-friend potential with me. I'm typically good at communicating and I feel comfortable speaking my mind, but I don't want to scare him away again. I rarely meet people that I like, as a friend or as a possible romantic interest. I want to bond with people, but as usual, its not working ...