With my old t, who i only saw in her office or in group, i had fantasies about her real life, since i didnt know much bout it, except for meeting her husband and toddler daughter once and seeing her interact with them.

With new t, i have driven her around, been out to eat with her, been shopping wth her, gone out around the community wth her, so i know how she is in real life with me and with people, seen her good sides and her bad sides, seen her get mad with people and be nice to them, etc, so i guess i dont need to have fantasies about her.