Thank you all for affirming my experience. I was really feeling "crazy" trying to process those responses.

I will take into serious consideration putting into writing my thoughts and needs for therapy. I have another appt on Monday -- my 7th interview, and hopefully my last. But if not, my only next idea is to contact therapists on the list I receive when I request BPD specialists on PsychologyToday.com. There are only 15 listed, most seem to be LMFTs, only a few PhDs (I might be unfairly biased toward PhDs). Also it should be noted that BPD is not their singular specialty, but only one in a long list of issues/disorders that they treat. There is an ability to contact them by email, but limited to 200 words! This is such a frustrating, energy-sapping process.