hankster, why may I ask do you see the light at the end of the tunnel? Just curious.

This stressful and upsetting week at school is finally over. I met with the outside investigator who was a woman. She was also an attorney, but she was working as a "fact finder" for the University and her report goes to the University's legal counsel, whom I didn't know were involved or why exactly.

She read my statement, asking questions along the way. I couldn't tell what her reactions were; she was super professional so was able to mask reactions. She did nod a lot at the beginning when I described the legal definition of "intentional infliction of emotional distress."

What I didn't expect and no one told about is that this investigation which was supposed to be about my own complaint raised against this student's behavior toward me, was also partly an investigation of me and her claims of complaint which I don't really know what they are apart from the problematic email.

So I had to defend myself against these claims, which I already had done in another meeting earlier in the week. I didn't have any materials other than a copy of a signed letter from my shrink about the side effects of the Ambien and the out of character email.

I emphasized that since he has worked for 35 years, it wasn't just any opinion but an expert one. She didn't seem able to take that in too well. She told me her view was based on the parable of the elephant, where all the blind men feel different parts and make certain claims about it. That made me uncomfortable since I know that parable well. It is "relativistic" in the sense that it says that all opinions are only opinions and are all equal, when that is patently false. Some people are more valid and accurate than others. Some people are motivated to lie or minimize, like the student who is pursuing this vendetta to get me kicked out of school.

I did end on strong note that the investigator nodded to. I said what more could I possibly do but apologize and change my behavior to show I was leaving her alone. I ended by saying if the student had accepted my apology and let this go, none of this would be happening.