Hello I am new to the forums and am looking for some advice. A little background info. I have been with my BF for one year but we were friends in high school, wanted to be together over the years but the time was never right. We're living together now.
Issue 1: My BF is a recovering alcoholic/addict. He has been working his 12 Steps in AA. Since this began our sex life has suffered. We went from a healthy, passionate sex life to twice a month. He seems to have lost all desire for sex and me. He swears it's him, that he loves me, attracted to me, blah, blah, blah but he doesn't initiate, no foreplay, kissing or touching. I feel awful, undesirable and sad. We did seek counselling but he refuses to go back. I think he may have a fear of intimacy because he relapsed before we met over some girl who hurt him. Stll, he does nothing to change and it's making me feel like crap.
Issue 2: his ex keeps texting him and messaging him on Facebook. She calls him by her pet name for him, and can be quite flirty. They dated back in he nineties, tried to reconcile three years ago but said they made better friends. Why won't she back off. I don't care if she checks in every once in a while but she text him all last night and he hides it from me. I just happened to see her name when he opened his phone. Why does he keep hiding this and why can'y she back off. She is engaged to another man.
Sorry for the lengthy post but my head is spinning.
Last edited by FooZe; Mar 01, 2013 at 03:30 PM.
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