I found my T by asking for a referral from the psychoanalytic institute near me. She later listed in Psychology Today. I don't know if I would have picked her based on her PT profile and intro. But she is a great fit for me. She said the person I contacted knew my T would be a good fit. We met and she said she gives both herself and the patient a chance to decide if it seems they will work well together. About the 4th session, we talked about that again, and both of us decided to proceed.

I don't know how I would go about it if I had to find a new T. I think though, that I would expect to see a T a few times to get a general idea about how well we could work together. I would want to give myself time to get a feel for the therapist.

I hope you find someone soon that feels like someone you can work well with!