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Old Mar 01, 2013, 02:40 PM
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To be it simply, if you have been abused and don't feel it then yes seems the clear answer.

We've had a similar discussion on a thread I started about lacking emotion when discussing abuse.

We discussed how it possibly arises from dissociating yourself from situations. I don't know about you, and and I don't know how you do with things. But I have an ability to go somewhere completely within myself where I am safe and my body is seperate. Most people would say thats dissociating. Its a defence mechanism. The problem is, when things change for example for me I am no longer being abused and have finally started seeking treatment for my past abuse so now, my copig mechanisms from the past don't make sense.

It is no longer acceptable for me to dissociate from my feelings, although at the moment it is all I do. I hope someday to be strong enough to face my feelings and move on from them but it is hard.

My advice to you would be to take your time with things. If you can, try and work through things with a therapist. I think its healthy to have the feelings there. However, I completely understand how you don't have feelings and how hard and alien it feels to not have or show the feelings you probably do have somewhere inside of you. On the other hand, I might be chatting complete rubbish!
Thanks for this!
Sannah