You "love" him. That is a feeling. But what about the relationship, objectively? No, it is not loving. Love is also an act. Pushing crosses the line and, as everyone has said, it will escalate. You are experienced with abusive patterns, and now you are in another one. Get out of that zone into something better. Don't let your feelings rule your life. Balance them with reason. One voice of reason is everyone in this thread who recognizes the abuse escalation pattern.

I have anger issues of my own, and I am working on them. They are not my husband's fault, and I would never hit him even though I am very strong and I could. (Makes me sick to just type that.) Get into a better place. You don't deserve this.

>The only thing he has ever done that has made me 100% terrified was one day a couple weeks ago. We got into a fight and he pushed me on the bed and pressed the thumbs of both of his hands into my neck right above my throat. He didn't choke me, but it did hurt for a couple days after.

Run. Don't stay with someone that already terrified you like this! You are in danger. Listen to yourself, look at what you wrote. You are trying to rationalize this. Which is a mistake.