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Old Mar 01, 2013, 04:49 PM
Anne2.0 Anne2.0 is offline
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Originally Posted by Fixated View Post
She will say my quitting is because I don't want to face the hard stuff. How do I know if I am quitting for the right reasons? I am losing my anger buzz.
I would be curious, in your shoes, about whether my prediction of what she would say about my quitting was accurate. I could only learn this if I went and told it to her in that last session you have planned. You can obviously use the session however you want, but if you want information, now is the time to ask for it.

I'm not sure how one knows if you're doing anything for the right reasons. I tend to think that when I act when I'm "hot" in my emotional response (and the anger buzz thing for me would be one cue that I am "hot"), I'm more likely to be acting out of the wrong reasons. Usually my "hot"ness is about being reactive rather than reflective. When I'm "cool" emotionally and I act from that place, it usually just has a sense, like an impression, that I'm doing something for the right reasons.

I have observed your struggle recently and I'm pretty sure I've said that it would be perfectly legitimate to choose to get another T or see another one for a consultation. You may need someone else to take you now where you want to go. I guess I would encourage you to try to quit for the right reasons, or try to set up an ending that *you* are satisfied with. It's fine whether that ending is having a fit of anger that she has to listen to or whether the ending is with you having a calm peacefulness that you just need to move on, or whatever you feel is best for you. But the ending of T, if it is right, can move you forward or it can hold you back. I think if you act, no matter what decision you make, out of strength and thoughtfulness, you can't go wrong.
Thanks for this!
Fixated