This to me is the difference between a "trained" and an experienced t. Like when you asked , did she want to see your photos of your trip, and her response was sooooo non-committal. How much harder do you have to push to get past her threshold where you will get a real response? She needs to lower her threshold to your level, not keep it at some book level "just because". We got enough idiotic "because I said so" when we were kids; we're not paying for it now. The term is optimal level of frustration; not frustrating level of frustration.