Was wondering how to word my thoughts to you TRF*D and found Tinyrabbit's comments pretty much echoed what I was thinking. For what it's worth I've 'interviewed' dozens of therapists over the course of my life and of those the majority were incompetent, superficial, by the book, often CBT oriented, completely unempathic and devoid of anything remotely resembling sympathy warmth or humour - basically wastes of space really certainly on a professional level. LOL of course that's my exceptionally subjective and biased opinion, but being as it's based on my experience, true. For me.

Any T who tries to lay the blame at the client's feet for the therapist's negative perceptions of and reactions to the client, is waving a big red flag and that says to me run for the hills, don't look back and let the dust come between you. It.is.their.JOB. to deal with whatever and whoever you present. It is not your job to make their job easy and it most certainly is not your job to blame yourself for their disgustingly offensive judgemental critical and at best hurtful responses about you both as a client and a person.

Hm sorry sleeping pill kicking in now but I really wanted to comment to you, and say very supportively, please don't lose heart, this is T failures you're describing here, not client failure (how can there possibly be client 'failure' ffs????? Oxymoron .) So if you see seven or even up to seventy Ts, try and hold onto the notion that YOU are the one who needs help and it's their job, paid for in moolah hard earned by yourself, to help you. And as a consumer, you are the one who decides whether you are being helped or not. Control and power and the ability to pick and choose our own healing roads rests in our hands, not in the T type text books and one size fits all therapeutic model they seem to consider reality...

Oh I do have to apologize I'm very aware of being totally off my face now on this sleeping pill as I'm retyping every second word ten times trying to get the syntax right. Perhaps I ought to return tomorrow when the pill has worn off, I guess I just wanted to say something NOW to support you in this souldestroying exercise of finding a T who fits.

Might add some more tomrrow when I wake up again. Sweet dreams pretty people Wow the hammer on the head is a hard sleeping pill to ignore for any length of time woo woo woo...

And all the best to you TRF*D, good luck with the continued search, don't give up and don't sell yuourself out, it's who you are who needs the help, not who you are expected to be by external demand. Use your sense of offense and anger to weed out the useless and airheaded ones from the rest. I will undoubtedly have more to say on anger and being offended and standing up for what you know deep down is legitimate and justified ... can't string another sentence together to save my life though. Gotta go to bed, like, right now! Night night for now

Torn