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Originally Posted by precious things
Can you start to line up someone new? You don't even have to necessarily follow-through, but knowing you have potential new T's lined up may decrease the chance you'll stay with her because she's there...
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I don't know. It hurts so much to even think about going through this all over again.
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Originally Posted by precious things
If she were a better T would you be willing to face the hard stuff? Only you know but I hate that kind of manipulation by T's because it leaves you second guessing your every move when really, it shouldn't be that hard.
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I do often think I would be able to face hard things if I had a warmer, more supportive T. Idk though. I am so thoroughly confused and second guessing myself. I don't know what my true motives are. I just don't know.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
Does she say this as an accusation or something else? Like, my T once said she was trying to move me too fast. She learned since then I am a snail and that's okay with me.
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Today, it was pretty much an accusation. She basically said, out of the blue, that I wasn't doing work today. That I wasn't being vulnerable. I wasn't giving her the opportunity to be supportive. She said I was just talking and talking about how hard therapy was and trying to find ways to make it easier.
My jaw literally dropped.
I will concede the fact that I wasn't going terribly deep or vulnerable, but the things I was asking/talking about were important to me. I need to understand how to relate to T so that I can understand myself more and how to relate to people in general.