Hi, I did hours of reading today and I was able to zero in on something that was so close to my husbands behavior that I could not believe it. It is called NARCISSISM , I even listened to a radio show where a man with narcissism had an open forum with victims of narcissism, unbelieveable!
I mean it sounded like me.

Narcissism, as far as I educated myself on the subject seems to be something very hard to cure or treat.

WOW, and thanks Rapunzel, it all started with your links. Many of the victims of narcissism have the The Stockholm Effect. Narcissism and the Stockholm effect victim go hand in hand it seems.