Welcome everyone and if you don't realize it already, you are in a good, safe place. Help abounds and people are open, willing to share experiences and advice.

ChattyCathy, bummer you're having this issue with your husband. Indeed you have enough to deal with your own health without the added stress of his alcohol abuse, and you're right, head meds and alcohol do NOT mix well at all. With a medical background, likely he knows that but since he drinks anyway, he might need AA. But that's his issue.

You can find help here and I hope you do, but in your situation it sure sounds like you need Al-Anon. They help those who love an alcoholic; they are well-established and unless you're in an unpopulated area, it's likely they have meetings nearby. Check it out. So many are dealing with similar situations and can help you bring the focus back to your own issues, besides helping you understand why you are not getting the support you need from him. Whatever you may decide, help is available and you only need to follow-thru, keep chin above the water line, and all that! Have lived the effects of alcoholic loved ones myself and have always been too sick to actually do anything about it. Don't let that happen with you, okay? You're worth it, don't listen to his abuse and be glad when he sleeps! Seriously, keep your posts coming and check out Al-Anon. Peace. Alex.