I have just went thru the most traumatic break-up with my beloved therapist. I haven't been able to write about it here until now. I think we both recognised that my needs were greater than what she could safely provide. And i now have a new therapist more suited (hopefully) to my needs whom i have seen twice and seems ok.

Termination has been awful. I feel like my heart has been ripped out. The feelings of immense loss and grief and betrayal sometimes threaten to drown me. She was such a big part of my life for 18 months, i loved her and she provided something for me that i didn't get growing up. Stability, caring, listening, supporting etc. But the boundaries were messed up from early on, we became more like friends almost at one point. I think she felt uncomfortable with that and tried to pull the boundaries back to where they should have been and that triggered an abandonment response in me and things got messy.

She says we can't stay in touch in the future. It's like a death. It hurts so much.

Can anyone relate to this and tell me how they got over feeling so awful about termination?