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Originally Posted by Asiablue
Fixated. To work closely with and be vulnerable with someone for 2.5 years and for you to feel not liked or special to them must be horrible. I totally understand how you're feeling about that. And i think for me that might even be a deal-breaker. It's not that you're asking to be her most favourite person in the whole world, but it would be nice to feel valued, that she enjoyed working with you, she liked to see you and looked forward to your appointments, that maybe there was an affection or fondness there. I don't think that is too much to ask.
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The not special thing I mentioned in the letter was actually me revealing to her that there are some people that I feel if I can get them to love me best will mean that I am not worthless. I admitted that she was one of those people.
We have since clarified some things. She cares about her clients, cares about me, but I am trying to understand exactly what that means. It does not sound as if it is the same way that other peoples' Ts mean. Like she said that a T being warm and fuzzy can also lead to problems because it might cause misunderstanding where the patient thinks they are special.
I get the sense that she draws the lines in a different place than some other Ts I've heard of.