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Old Mar 02, 2013, 12:24 PM
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom View Post
Apologies can be just a fulcrum for scorekeeping, which threatens the work.

I think, for this thread, this is a key concept. As long as a client insists upon viewing all interactions as part of a grand power play, a drama writ large, no apology--or any expressed emotion--will be acceptable or enough. No trust will be accorded, nor extended. I can't see how such a relationship can be therapeutic.
I don't believe the client is always wrong about some of the therapist's interactions being a power play. My experience with therapists, and their own admission of such, has borne this out for me. I do not believe the whole thing has to then be a waste, but to deny its existence is just as foolish.