I don't agree with those who say therapy is all about the client and that T isn't there to change/apologise. That seems to be to be dismissing the role of the therapist in the relationship. I take the view that therapy is a relationship like any other where both play a part. It might not be a conventional one like non therapy relationships but it still involves two human beings who sometimes hurt one another or get it wrong. I like it when Ts own the hurt they have caused by apologising. That doesn't suggest I'm locked in some sort of blame state but it does suggest my feelings have value. I couldn't work with a blank slate T who never owned any hurt she'd caused me. I think that could be quite a dangerous scenario.