Rapunzel, I followed the links you left me and I ended up for hours reading about narcissism. My husband could have been the model for the systoms for narcissism. It was like it was written for him.

And what also got my attention is that the Stockholm Effect can be found in most the victims of Narcissism, probably more than anywhere I looked. It seems the narcissistic spouse sets the whole scene for the stockholm effect.

The sad side is that the narcissistic mate rarely changes. They do not recognize that they have a disorder, and there are no current really effective treatments. Most advise the victim to leave the spouse. They do not care enough about any one but themselves to change.