What is it that makes you break up? Is it following a big row? Or something else? If it were me, I would see if it is possible for you both to sit down, and see if there are ways of communicating better with each other, and trying to discuss things when you are both calm. If you are splitting up after a row, make a pact to say that instead of splitting up, have yourselves a day to calm down, and then get back together and try and talk things through. Then at least you are both acting and not reacting, if you know what I mean and trying to stop this destructive cycle.

I agree, pain is dreadful. I have a lot of pain, and its tough. Sometimes things, even little things can get on top of me on a bad day, but I do not take it out on my boyfriend, nor do I split up with him. Pain is not his fault, no way, but he needs to find a way to handle it better. Perhaps therapy may help?

Nobody can tell you what to do with regard to getting back together. But if I were in your shoes, I'd try one more time if you can, but try a fresh approach. Its wonderful that you both love each other, and who knows, with a bit of work from you both, that you can have a fab, long term relationship?

Good luck, and be happy