Adam, I to have told my H this. He did not follow up on doing that. I told him sure have sex w/ someone else. As long as you loyalties lie w/ me I am fine w/ it. He has been with one person before me and I have been w/ 2 before him. I just am not that interested in sex. It is something that guys obviously need.

But having said that and knowing why I said it and thinking back on the ways your wife and I sound similar. I think of me as not being attractive (not to say your wife is not, but I am a bigger girl) who wants to be doomed to sex w/ a big girl for the rest of there life, I want to keep my H and don't want him to stray, so if I give him permission then he want be straying. I told him he could. When I told my H that he could have sex w/ other women, deep down inside I was not happy w/ our relationship at the time. That was mostly away to make him leave me alone. Sex if of zero importance to me. It used to be of minimal importance, but w/ the current issues plus the meds it is of zero importance. She may know just like I did that men have a higher drive then us ladies. In order to keep you she may be willing to share you. But that is not realistic in my own opinion. It would tell her so much more about you, and how much you value your relationship w/ her if you didn't find someone else to have sex w/. In hindsight I am glad my H didn't have sex w/ someone else and w/ me also. I think looking back it would have hurt me, and I would have felt defenseless to change it because I said he could.

That is a jeasture really not a reality. It says she loves you enough to care about all parts of you. Don't really act on it.