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Originally Posted by visiblestars
i don't have depression, but my borderline personality disorder comes with a hefty dose of it from time-to-time. with major depression, though, it seems like there is often a struggle with attachment in relationships.
does anyone here struggle with attachment issues?
how do you see the people in your life? your loved ones?
my bpd makes it hard to feel secure in relationships. i seek validation. he has an issue with attachment. it feels right now like loving him is futile, or trying to cultivate the relationship, to attend to it.
does anyone have any advice that might help?
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Just to mention that you are probably talking about BPD.
Wikipedia: "Attachment disorder is a broad term intended to describe disorders of mood, behavior, and social relationships arising from a failure to form normal attachments to primary care giving figures in early childhood, resulting in problematic social expectations and behaviors. Such a failure would result from unusual early experiences of neglect, abuse, abrupt separation from caregivers
after about 6 months of age but before about three years of age, frequent change of caregivers or excessive numbers of caregivers, or lack of caregiver responsiveness to child communicative efforts. A problematic history of social relationships occurring after about age three may be distressing to a child, but does not result in attachment disorder."
"with major depression, though, it seems like there is often a struggle with attachment in relationships." - yes, to some extent, but these issues are transient (present while depression is present, and then go away). The issues with the true attachment disorder do not go away so easily.
But any which way you probably need therapy.