What you are experiencing is called a "transference". It seems that you are attracted to a similar type of people: older & unattainable. This is a pattern in you - in which you need to realize that there's a root to this. Are you hoping for a father figure? Does he remind your of someone familiar?

Transference is important in therapy - if you like your T enough then you'd do anything s/he said. But a negative transference (eg. thinking that he's like an uncle you dislike) is unhealthy for therapy because now you're just rebelling for the heck of it.

You need to realize that, though he may be an "ideal" man because he listens, sympathize, attentive and understands you - he considers you as a client/patient only and nothing will digress from it. You will be broken hearted if you are being manipulative because not only you've jeopardize your relationship with him (maybe you'd feel embarrassed to the point where you can't face him) but you also will be devastated to find that he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

If he is a good therapist - then you need to discuss your issue of transference with him. And if he is good - then he'd be able to handle it and discuss it with you. This is something that you need to deal with and get over before you can move forward in therapy.

One of the ways to reduce transference is to find out a few personal things about the therapist - like if he's single, married or have kids. The more you know about his personal life... the more you'd realize he's not the "idol" you think he is - that he's just a normal person who is trying to help and care about you.

The most important thing is to focus on your therapy. If a male therapist has been distracting... then choose a female therapist who won't distract you. You want to stick with your therapist long enough where you can benefit from it. Don't fall into a pattern where you'd end up moving from therapist to therapist because of transference!