I saw my first T for over 3 years. I'm not exactly sure what happened but I decided to quit in one session, without any closure. I think it's because I was very angry with her, and didn't think I could confide in her the way I had been doing.

Even though I was the one to quit, I was devastated! I remember crying the entire night after I quit! I didn't sleep at all. It was terrible. I thought I was going to die. What helped me was that I saw another T as soon as I could. I spent months talking about my former T and getting a perspective on what had happened. After 2 years, I quit that T and went back for a few sessions to end "in a better way" with my first T. I was glad I had that closure, but it didn't work out totally successfully in the end. I was still attached to her, and saw someone else to work more on resolving the transference, as I called it then. I used to write my first T letters and send her photos of me and my family, knowing that she wouldn't answer me, ever. Eventually, I stopped having that need to contact her but sometimes I think about her because she was my first T, and I learned a lot from her.

So, you have to grieve just as for any other loss, and don't be afraid to grieve with your new T, and to talk about your feelings of loss. It does take time, as others have said, but you will survive and the pain will lessen as time goes on.