I think you are handling things well Rose, letting this new woman see things for herself. I hope you are supportive with her, and respectful, I am sure you are. Just be careful though, and keep it professional, even though you want to kinda rescue her if she starts to lose it under the pressure. It might get very tempting to add your personal feelings about how bad things are if she does break, but always remember that "can" be used against you if she begins to gain some ground inspite of the situation. Sometimes all it takes is some kind of ally for someone to make a stand and the "ally" or "sympathetic one" can be the one thrown under the bus. I have a few of those experiences in my past so I know how easy it is to become someone elses "excuse" if their effort to get in a better position somehow fails them. So just be careful.